I recently found out that a woman who was one of my son's teachers at his daycare just had a miscarriage at 20 weeks. The kids at the daycare all knew about the pregnancy. They had just held a baby shower for her. She miscarried on Mother's Day and hasn't been back to work since--she probably won't be back actually. She's gone to be with her military fiancee in another state, which was where she was going after the baby was born anyway.
All this makes me wonder when its really safe to tell Clownfish about the pregnancy. I mean, I know there are no guarantees at any point. But I had planned to tell him at 16 weeks. And I probably still will. But I'm open to suggestions.